A Boy and Nails

There once was a boy who has a bad temper. His father gave him a big bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The boy drove 37 nails into the fence on the first day. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered gradually decreased. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails to the fence.
Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed by and the boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
He said, “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say something in anger, it leaves a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, but it won’t matter how many things you say I’m sorry. The wound is still here. “

曾经有一个脾气很坏的男孩,他的父亲告诉他,如果下次他再想发脾气的时候,就在后面的篱笆那里钉一个钉子。
第一天,男孩就钉了37个钉子。几周后,随着钉钉子数量的减少,他学会了如何控制自己的脾气,他发现控制脾气比钉钉子简单多了。
男孩告诉父亲,他终于完全学会了如何控制自己的脾气,父亲建议他再每天拨出一颗钉子去巩固自己不发脾气(父亲建议他如果一天不发脾气就拨出一颗钉子)。
随着时间的流逝,男孩告诉父亲,他终于拨完了所有的钉子。
父亲带着他到了篱笆那里,说:“你做的很好,我的儿子,但是看看钉子在篱笆上留下的痕迹,篱笆跟以前已经完全不同了。你生气时所说的一些话,就像篱笆上的痕迹一样留在了别人身上,你伤害别人之后,即使说再多的对不起都没有用了,伤痕永远在那里。