Suppose a child comes home with a report card with five As and one B. Usually the first thing his parents will say is “why the B? ” What do you think will go through the child’s mind? Did he try for the B? Or should his parents congratulate the child for the B and accept a lower standard? Not at all.
What the child is really looking for is acknowledgement and encouragement for the effort in getting the five As. A parent after acknowledging and praising the As, can make clear his expectations of seeing all six As and offer help if needed. If we lower our standards, the chances are pretty good that the performance next time would drop to those expectations.
Similarly at work, an employee dose 100 things right and one thing wrong. Guess what the boss picks on?
Acknowledge the positive but don’t lower your standards.

一个小孩拿了5张A和一张B的成绩单回到了家,通常父母会问为什么会有一张成绩单是B。你认为孩子会怎么想?他想得到B吗?还是我们应该降低标准,庆祝他得了一个B?应该不是这样的。
小孩真正想要的是得到5个A之后来自父母的承认和鼓励,父母在表扬小孩得到了5个A后,还是要明确地告诉他希望可以得到6个A,如果在过程中他需要帮助,我们会给予他最大的支持。如果父母降低对小孩的要求,他以后可能会以低标准要求自己(如果我们降低标准,那么下一次很有可能会低于我们的期望)。
就像在工作上,员工做对了100件事,但是却做错了1件,猜猜老板会怎么说?
承认做事很积极努力,但是标准不能降低。